“To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.” (Oscar Wilde)
I saw this quote a few years back right at the height of my healing journey when I was turning things around with my health and more. Although I believe in love and marriage, what I have learnt is the most important relationship you have is the one you have with yourself. You will always be with you and you will always have you. Now this a very long time to be with someone. Do you ever think about how you treat yourself or how you approach yourself? Is it with kindness or contempt? It’s something to really think about and gives plenty of food for thought. If we could see ourselves from a different perspective would we change our approach to ourselves. Kindness certainly has to start from within which radiates outwards onto others and the world around us. You can only give what you already have and it’s remembering this. No matter what the question is in your life, love is always the answer. Even more so, self-love is more important than ever in a world that sometimes makes no sense at times. This goes hand in hand with building a good relationship with ourselves – our true selves.
This year I will be approaching a very special anniversary where I will be celebrating 7 years of amazing vibrant health after experiencing an incredible healing journey and I am excited for the times ahead. There are more journeys on the horizon I’m sure and creatively I am in the best place I have been for a very long time. There is a lot happening offline to make my dreams happen and I am deeply committed to my creativity and what my soul is calling me to.
I always get asked what will I be doing next or rather where I will be trekking or travelling to next. I think I have gained some sort of reputation with my adventures since my health improved nearly 7 years. I am laughing about it as I am writing now because it is so true. I am always up to something but I don’t always share it until I am ready to share it. Despite my adventurous streak it takes a lot of energy to manifest and stay in that energy so I like to quietly do what I need to do and see where life takes me. Also, I don’t always feel like I need validation from anywhere because I have such a big trust in the Universe and that wherever I end up I will always be supported by life’s magic.
It has been a few years since I have done a big trek and I haven’t planned anything like that recently (not yet) but I’m sure that will happen when it’s meant to. When a mountain calls me I will be there for sure. In the last year 7 years I have trekked the Sahara Desert, mountains of Iceland and climbed Mount Kilimanjaro, travelling to America, South America and India for fun, food and personal development, defying anything that doctors told me over a decade ago about my health and taking life into my own hands. It was the best decision and allowed me to follow my bliss and visit such amazing places. I see much more travel in my future but I find the best adventure right now is within myself and does not require any travel, only an open heart and new eyes to see possibilities and the goodness of life.
We are always travelling in some way and being able to look at your glass half full makes all the difference in the world. It’s a game changer.
“Though we travel the world over to find the beautiful, we must carry it with us, or we find it not.” (Ralph Waldo Emerson)
It has been an epic two week journey abroad travelling to the depths of possibility and seeing things with fresh eyes. This is what I love about visiting other countries – taking in the culture, the food and being able to accept the hospitality of the people who have opened their homes to me, especially on this trip. It makes you look at life differently. It was my first time in India and I couldn’t think of a better place to go than Kerala. It has so much to offer and is such a magical place to be if you open your heart to her.
When I first arrived I must admit I didn’t feel this way for many reasons. I knew India would not be a holiday of total relaxation. The streets are so busy. They are filled with the worst traffic I have ever seen and full of people wherever you go to the point you can hardly move as you navigate through the crowds. Then you have the sweltering heat to contend with. It is the hottest of heats and I couldn’t go outside most afternoons because of it. With all of that and adjusting to a new time zone, India was very confronting to me and I have never been to a place quite like it.
India is filled with so much spirituality and yet you are faced with total duality all at the same time. You would see beautiful buildings that took your breath away then come outside and see rubbish on the floor at every street corner. It broke my heart to see Mother Earth in this way and I thought to myself would I ever get it and connect to India. There was so much that didn’t make sense to me. I was pushed beyond my limits, observing my shadows and seeing my triggers come out in full force. It made me wonder if I had evolved at all. It really showed me that no matter where you are in the world, unless you know yourself and see your truth and beauty on the inside, you can travel to the most exotic extravagant places and never be fulfilled, not truly. Everything you seek is always inside yourself.
There was so much about Kerala that I loved. The food was absolutely fantastic. That was the best part of the trip as a total foodie. There was so much variety and different flavours it would awaken your senses in every way. The effort, time and love gone into the cooking could be felt with every bite. I would be in heaven every time I ate something and was in total appreciation of what I was experiencing. I never thought I could feel this way after recovering from an illness only four years ago. That changed my life forever and previously left me for a long time unable to eat many foods. Then there I was in Kerala eating everything and more. It was a total dream! The food represented all that is good and coming alive in a big way. Living takes complete courage and faith in oneself. When you allow yourself the time and space to heal, anything is possible and enjoying the food in Kerala was living proof of this.
What I loved even more were the connections I made. Life is so much better when you walk it with others and I feel so blessed with the people in my life; my friends on this trip and the family and friends I have at home. This makes it all worthwhile. When you have special experiences inside the every day with beautiful souls you can laugh, cry, love and be completely yourself around, this to me is what it means to be rich. The ability to be loving, kind and giving when you are triggered is richer still.
As I left Kerala in exactly the same way as I found it, in the hustle and bustle and extreme heat, I couldn’t help but smile. My heart was filled with so much love and gratitude and I could see the Divine everywhere around me. I am grateful to Kerala for the gift it has given me, to reveal what was evidently there all along.